Forgiveness
This time I’d like to speak about forgiveness. It is a very beneficial energy, and extremely healing at that.
So, someone did you wrong. They hurt, shamed, humiliated, abandoned or lied to you. They may even have inflicted physical pain upon you. As you experience this you go through all kinds of emotions: surprise, shock, trauma, terror, hurt, pain, disappointment, and/or sadness. But this is only the first layer of what you experience. It is immediately flowed by frustration and anger. How could they have done this to you? Maybe the situation is even so painful to you that you lost trust in this person.
Now what? Well first you have to process this event. If you are upset, then you need to first calm down. Take a few deep breaths. Once you are calm you need to process what you felt. The only emotion that takes time to heal is hurt. Everything else can be handled pretty quickly. The way to do that is to go into the emotions as deeply as you can.
If you are sad, and you feel it as deeply as you can, the sadness will go away within a few short minutes. Especially, if the event just happened just a short while ago.
Overall, the longer you wait, the more involved it gets. I suggest that you keep yourself clear every day; that you process all unresolved emotions before you go to sleep. Please do not postpone this process until the next day, because overnight unresolved stuff sinks into your unconscious mind, and it gets more difficult to access and clear it. You have to get to a point, that when you think about the event, it is just a memory. There is no more emotional charge attached to it. You got to get everything off your chest.
If you cannot do that with the perpetrator directly, then you do it your imagination. If you need to know how to do this, I suggest you get my 15-minute video on Safe Venting that is available here at https://danielthehealer.com/videos/. It is item #21 a bit down on the page.
Now if this event was a minor infraction, and if you do the emotional processing, clearing and healing, you should be all fine. But if this was some heavy-duty stuff, that really hurt you, then there is more to do.
In the next few days and even weeks, every time you recall the event, you will also remember that you were hurt, that you were in pain, and all the other stuff you felt.
Let’s say that you went through a nasty breakup with your spouse/partner. And even after a few years, when you think about it, you become all emotional. That means that you really did not process all your feelings. In that case you may have to go back to the event and allow yourself to feel everything you felt, just more deeply. Maybe you are still sad that you broke up, and so you need to go deeper into the sadness until it literally evaporates away. But the real key to being all done with it is forgiveness.
You see, any negative event that has not been fully closed with forgiveness, still lingers around in your psyche. If you have many of these un-forgiven situations hanging around, then overall they can pull you down and diminish your quality of life, and lessen your joys. Over time you may even become bitter.
The main thing to understand here is that the forgiveness is for you, not the perpetrator. I hear people say from time to time that they will never be able to forgive so-and-so. The offense was too great, there was too much hurt, the situation is un-forgivable.
Unfortunately, that is not true. In such a case, it is you that suffers, not the one that did it to you. It is really important that you stop your own suffering.
Effective forgiveness can be directed at two different people, you and others.
Let’s talk first about self-forgiveness.
No one gets up in the morning and mumbles to them-selves: “How am I going to mess myself up today?” We all have good intentions, and generally make plans that the day will go well. However, sometimes we fall short of either our own or other people’s expectations.
That is when you forgive yourself. Just before going to sleep, you say the words: “I forgive myself.” That’s it. You are now off the hook and are able to start the next day with a clean slate.
If it is someone else, in your imagination, you call them in to stand before you, and you mentally say these words to them: “I forgive you.” Once this is done to tell then that it is all done, and you tell them to return to from where they came.
That’s it. It is that easy. And it is for your sake and well-being.
Good luck with that.
I wish you all the best, be well and fare well.
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